Nobody loves the word CRITICISM, even
me… but it exists in the dictionary…
and in the real world! That means we
cannot avoid it, all we can do is to face
it and not be crushed by it.
Literally criticisms are mere words,
but as they say - words are more remembered than physical wounds inflicted on us. They kept ringing on our mind for days,
weeks and even for years unlike wounds that just leave an ugly scar that we learned
to forget that is there. To that, we can turn these criticisms as motivators to help us grow better. We have to keep in mind that people who criticize are mostly the
authorities, people who have higher
ranks and the jack of his trade, the boss who pays us sometimes – we better refrain from criticizing if we
are not those mentioned above because we may end-up a laughing stock not having
every ‘right’ to do that. Those rightful critics can help us change to
become somebody. Appreciate it when
your ‘writing’ is being criticized
that means you get their attention, they gave time to read what you scribbled-on
and best of all, these criticisms are camouflaged suggestions that you can
take positively for your work to develop and later on bring success on your part . If others criticize
you for your work, strive to improve it the next time you will be given another
chance.
Not all those people who criticize
have bad intentions whatever way they have expressed it. There are those who
are pushing you to the point that makes
you struggle to show them you can do better. Teachers may be one of them. Teachers sometimes give us punishment when we did not do our
assignments, because if they just let that thing pass, you may do it again. The
punishment is sometimes unwanted criticisms that somehow is humiliating –do not
get me wrong that I am giving the teacher the license to disgrace the students below the belt, still we have to stay
within the limits (pulling the students’ shorts and skirt in front of the class
nor too much cruel words is not a good idea-this may have a psychological
effect on the child).
Side Story:
We have this teacher in grade three, Mrs.
Remedios Ala, that makes us memorize
maybe ten to fifteen (10-15) English words translated in Filipino language, each session in her class she gave us a list to
work-on for the next school day. She will hit with a little bamboo stick (not
abusive and too painful at all, like a parent reminding her children) those who
could not recite the pairs correctly.
My classmates are criticized too for neglecting studies. Afraid to be one of
them, I am doing my duty. Lucky me, I was in her class. I am thanking her till now, though I have not
got a chance to reunite with her again since then, just in my heart, that
because of her I have enriched my
vocabulary and those I have learned through her have become part of what I
can do today.
Our physical appearance may not be changed (unless on a surgery!!!)
–this is the most difficult to handle
in all of the criticisms one has to receive. Yet, others have turned it to a
BIG enterprise. No offense to Mr. Mike
Enriquez (well-known
newsman/tv anchor), he is well-aware that he is not that handsome and the
prominent part of his face is his nose ,he
is telling that frankly in a joking manner. That ‘looks’ he got has made him FAMOUS, he became the example of those
who succeed without the very pleasing personality (this
proves that personality not only scores
in the physical but most importantly what the person has to offer-the
skills and the like). Mr. Enriquez is
even joking in his radio program about his looks
and people are actually buying it. He has tons of listeners across the country
that includes me… however he may be criticized of his looks, I think that it
motivated him to work-on whatever talent he has. I think if he will be given a gift
by the likes of the highly-respected Dra. Vicky Belo, I bet he will refuse!
That looks made him millions (maybe)
and made him popular and his face is like a signature (that is even
impersonated!!!) that we can easily recall or recognize who is Mr. Mike Enriquez.
Mr.“Mike Enriquez, if you happen to read
this do not curse me giving emphasis to your appearance, we are friends J “
Let us put ‘criticism’ in an ARTWORK, the
canvas is you and the painter is the critic. The painter makes sure that
his work is near to perfection that if he has the chance to erase (what is on
the canvas) its sketch, he does. It is just like erasing (by painting another
stroke of color) the bad or worse part of your attitude and your doings to draw
an adorable new one. Everybody is criticized
in different aspect, ways or manner. Not you alone. The way we handle those sometimes rude comments are somehow gauge of
our persona. There are only two options we got – letting criticism pull you down or bring you to the top.
If the one who criticizes you is not an
authority on the field you were criticized, just forget it. That is just a
product of envy. Be proud you are a
subject of envy. Do not give the critics
the joy of tormenting you. Showing them you are affected and downed makes them
happy. On the other hand, seeing you unaffected
make them think that you are sturdy enough to fall and will soon leave you
alone. Kick your way to the top and
turn those criticisms to affect you positively. Show them that they are wrong.
Show them that first impression is not meant to last and is always the wrong
one.
Have a great day everyone
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