Years of being married, meeting different (in terms of social status regardless of religion) married couples, sweethearts from different places I had been, I had theorized this conclusion why couples fall apart.
Although MOST of these observations apply on married couples, still some can also be for sweethearts:
Immaturity is synonymous to ‘being childish’. Encyclopedia and Dictionary’s take on it are as follow:
Being immature, one acts like a child being INSENSITIVE of the other’s feelings. It may manifest in actions and in verbal confrontation.
-Examples of Insensitive Actions:
1. Coming home late without notice of whereabouts with phone off.
Husbands are mostly guilty of this. The wife is just a phone call or eve a text message away. If you have unexpected appointments after office that you have not mentioned to your spouse, take seconds to let her know. That precious seconds will save her from the agony of waiting at home worrying about you or getting hungry waiting for her eating companion. Being a lady, I know how we can feel secure and this counts a lot if you do AND lessens the chances of fighting.
2. Literally pulling-out a pillow from the partner’s head while sleeping.
Funny and foolish, though this happens.
3. Deviating from the old ways
Sometimes it is better NOT TO BE sweet and thoughtful if you can not STAND or KEEP it that way for as long as the relationship exists. It results to lesser expectations, lesser reasons to be sad or to ponder about.