My ten year-old daughter suddenly becomes so conscious with
how she looks, the mirror on the wall that has been hanging there for a long
time begging for attention now turned into my Angel Reign's favorite nook.
Ang aking sampung
taong-gulang na anak ay bigla nang naging mapansinin sa hitsura niya, yung
salamin na matagal nang nakasabit sa dingding na tila nagpapansin ay naging
paboritong sulok ni Angel Reign.
Oh my! I am surprised to find-out that she is a little bit
getting serious with having a crush. Imagine having her crush's name as her
mobile hotspot's password?! Before I am just vexing her about this boy, a friend's son, who is known to be her
admirer. Just a not so serious thing at all.
Naku, nakagugulat na
tila baga seryoso na siya sa pagkakaroon ng nagugustuhan. Mantakin mo pangalan
ng crush niya ang password ng wifi hotspot ng cellphone niya?! Dati-rati
nakikiharot lang ako sa kanya dun sa anak ng kaibigan namin na batang may gusto
raw sa kanya. Biro-biro lang ba...
Children need to feel
that parents are open to the idea of them having such feelings that naturally
occur sideways during puberty. As their physical body changes, the hormones that brought
those changes also affect their mental and emotional being. And it is important that they
know that this is a 'welcome thing' because this is
crucial getting their trust in this very
important matter that really needs extreme parental guidance.
Kailangan ng ating mga
anak na makaramdam na tayong kanilang mga magulang ay bukas sa ideya ng
pagkakaroon nila ng gayong damdamin na kasabay na sumusulpot sa panahon ng
pagdadalaga at pagbibinata. Habang unti-unting nagbabago ang kanilang pisikal
na kaanyuan kaalinsabay nito ang mga pagbabago sa kanilang damdamin at
kaisipan. At mahalagang malaman nila na 'ayos lang'
sa atin ito dahil malaki ang kinalaman nito sa pagkuha natin ng tiwala nila sa
mga ganito kaselang bagay na tunay na nangangailangan ng patnubay nating mga
magulang.
If we, parents, get impulsive upon hearing the most handsome
guy or the prettiest girl or the brightest in the class who has often been the
hero in your child's stories then took
it negatively and scold the child about it, we are just teaching them to start lying sooner or later. Of
course, we have a hint right away of what is 'between the lines' - no matter how we deny, this is part of their growing-up. What is important is that we make sure, we
are ready to listen and they are confident that we are a FRIEND.
Kung
magpapa-bigla-bigla tayong mga magulang sa sandaling makarinig tayo ng mga
kuwento ng ating anak kung saan bidang-bida ang pinaka-cute o pinakamatalinong
bata sa klase - kapag nagalit tayo o nagsermon - matuturuan natin silang
magsinungaling o magtago sa kinalaunan.
Syempre, nakakahalata na agad tayo kahit hindi pa tuwirang sabihin ng
bata sa atin ang nararamdaman- kahit anong tanggi natin, bahagi ito ng paglaki
nila. Ang mahalaga matiyak natin na handa tayong makinig at tiwala sila na tayo
ay 'kaibigan'.
Parents too will feel secure having the confidence that
children turn to them in all sort of these changes - along the way, advices on
how the child should properly react on some situations they might encounter, we
can freely give them without any hint of rejection on their part.
