What to do on your first date? Confuse on what to wear? Wear to go? Whose invitation to accept? How to act, etc? Here are some helpful tips for your first date :
1. Dress comfortably. Wear
clothes that you can freely do what you need and want to do.
For gents, a handy body spray,
mouthwash and a hanky will suffice your needs. Double check your wallet, must
have cash or debit card apart from credit
cards in case – it must be included in your clutch bag.
2. Let the man choose the restaurant
unless he asks your preference.
Footing
the bill, he can come-up with a
decent place that suits his budget. Having a well-off date, this may not be necessary. Successful first dates
should not be financially disastrous. Expect the man has his budget, BUT do
not over-expect. Gauging his economic status silently will give you a better idea of what he can afford.
Ordering food, it would be best
to suggest food of your liking. Enjoy not just the thought of being together
but enjoy the food (there might be some who have allergies on some food). It
will be awkward to your date to see you seemed not enjoying the food because
you are worried triggering your allergies.
Gents, ask the lady what she
prefers to eat while you are not in the resto to be prepared, then order for
the house’s specialty (if she answers whatever or for that kind of meat she
prefers.
3. Try as much as possible to
make the first date a “friendly-date” not
stiff, in the sense of having too personal talks – discussing feelings must
be avoided.
Friendship can be a
great foundation of a deeper relationship hearing stories of my older friends
who had been married and still together “for
life”.
4. Be yourself, this is
applicable to both genders. Do not pretend to be someone you are not.
It may lead on introducing yourself to your
date as a different person that sometime soon, after knowing each other more, he
will find out and he will just be turned-off if you are not what he began to
love of you.
I am not just referring to the
literal introduction of what you do, who your parents are, what have you
studied/studying but MORE importantly being natural with how you talk, what you
prefer, walk, wear or even eat! Being natural is like thawing the “ice” that separates you.
Why is that important? By doing
that, you are making a great start. One
thing that has brought me telling myself that “It’s him, I want to be with for the rest of my life…” is the
moment I can tell him that I only have a hundred-peso
in my wallet, do you get what I mean? Just forgetting that “shyness” exists in the dictionary, of
letting him know you are weak, you have flaws – you are not created perfect and
if he accepts you despite of the “minuses” aspects of your whole-being,
that just means deeper connection.
5. For ladies, do not offer to pay the bill,
insisting may appear like a “slap” on
his face... However you intend to be thoughtful as I know, BUT you may end-up
insulting your date!
Men did not like it when you pay for them especially on a “man-woman” date. Unless if he is a gold digger, you may be
warned J
6. Suggest on where you would
prefer to go. Dining-out is always a part,
but if you have much time and interested to your date and want to know him more
you may want to keep him company longer.
My suggestions would be, if you
are scholarly you may want to see museums, library, heritage parks etc. If you
love “Stage Plays”, say it. If you love animals – you sure have
plenty of options to choose from, sight-seeing zoos, ocean parks etc. Two lists
on your itinerary would be great for a first date. Concerts of your favorite
singers/bands are good to share. Another great experience would be dining on a
floating restaurant by the bay area usually in a yacht. If you are in the
Philippines, there are some in Manila Bay area. Adventure parks/places are also everywhere, go
zip-lining, wall climbing, fishing, biking, scuba diving, try-on mermaid tail
in resorts, bungee jumping, cable-car ride and a lot more-it would be fun and
thrilling and you could have a lot of memories to cherish (do not forget
your digicam).
7. Ask him if he can fetch you from home and not
anywhere else, guys who have good
intentions are not afraid to look at your parents’ eyes and will not shy-away to ask their
permission. Also ask if he can take you home too afterwards, although real
gentlemen need not be reminded of it. You better think twice if he cannot do
either of two.
To gents, you must give the gal’s
parents the time you would bring her back and be sure you can do it. Estimate
traffic etc. or just provide time with a little allowance. And if inevitably
you did not make it on time, be sure to say you are sorry, BUT keep in mind
that you are marked. So, be true to your words and promises. The parents are
big influence to your dream girl’s
choice.
8. Most importantly, for ladies you
must ask your parents’ permission (for minors), they must know your whereabouts
–where you plan to go, to keep you safe.
Guys, it is in your discretion if
you wanted to tell her parents where are you planning to bring her. That would
be a PLUS on your (parents' angle) side if you do.
9. Ladies, do not accept
invitations for a “date” from a
complete stranger (someone you met through text messaging or social networking
like Fb, G+, Twitter etc.), forget about having a first date unless the person
is a long time acquaintance, family-friend and a really trusted person by word
of mouth.
Those who recently made their
social network profile and who do not have even a friend-list of ten people
with photos are doubtful (they may represent a pseudo-profile); and there you
can see what kind of friends he has – are they looking decent, funky, drug
addicts, prim and proper or what?!
I think I have to tell you of
this man victimizing women telling them he is still a bachelor although in
truth he is a married man. One of his many victims became so involved in him
that they live together and got a child only the pitiful young woman finding
out in the end that she had just become a mistress. However she cried and her
parents get angry they could not bring back the time. And the thought of wrecking another family
may not giving her a peaceful sleep.
It may help to ask about him
secretly if you do not know him that much.
*I based my above suggestion on
news reports, there is a teenage girl who had became a rape-slay victim of her
textmate, not just him but investigators reported that she was gang-raped,
burned and thrown in an abyss…I would not want that to happen again to anybody.
10. Gents, do not be rude or else you would not get a second
date!
The respect you show us ladies is a HUGE plusJ And you will not meet
a decent woman who allowed you to mistreat her that way. If you are serious in
your intentions of finding the right one, be a true gentleman.
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